Feeling Alive Again
There are moments in life when something inside you wakes up, stretches its limbs, and reminds you that you’re still here. Not just existing. Alive. Truly, wildly, soul-deep alive in a way you haven’t felt in years.
That’s where I am right now.
I put a dream out into the universe not long ago — quietly, intentionally — the way you release something you love with both hope and surrender. And the universe, in its own perfect timing, whispered back. Maybe feeling alive begins long before the dream comes true. Maybe it starts the moment you choose to believe you deserve more than survival. The moment you stop waiting for life to happen, and you start making it.
And this week, that truth unfolded in the most beautiful way.
My happy place has always been the kitchen. Gateway especially. The energy there, the purpose behind every event, the hum of creative momentum — it all feels like home. When I’m in that kitchen, feeding people and working alongside someone who understands my rhythm, everything in me settles.
This week was a whirlwind, but the best kind:
Wednesday we shopped.
Thursday we prepped.
Friday we transported everything and set up the Christmas party.
Three days of movement, intention, laughter, planning, and purpose. Three days of feeling more alive and grounded than I have in so long.
And at the center of it was Caryn.


Eight years ago, I reached out to her because she felt like someone I was meant to know. I didn’t question it — I just followed that quiet inner pull that whispered, “Pay attention.”
Four months ago, I reached out to her again and asked her to be one of my chef’s at Gateway. We’ve been told we look like sisters. Maybe we do. But the deeper truth is that she feels like someone my soul recognized before my mind ever caught up.
One of my favorite things we made for the party were these simple vegan pastry cups — caramelized onions, vegan feta, and tomatoes. Nothing dramatic, nothing complicated, just humble ingredients layered together in a way that somehow became magic.
It struck me as we worked:
That’s life.
That’s friendship.
That’s purpose.
Simple things — a moment, a conversation, a shared task, a single decision to reach out to someone eight years ago — come together slowly, quietly, intentionally. And before you realize what you’re building, they become something bigger than the sum of their parts. Something meaningful. Something whole. Something that feeds you in ways you didn’t even know you were hungry for.
Just like those cups:
each ingredient good on its own,
but together — something elevated, something complete.
And somewhere in the middle of all of it — the prepping and unloading pans, the ovens heating up, and the music playing in the kitchen while we worked side by side — I realized something I didn’t expect:
Gateway is my new love.
Not a crush.
Not a phase.
A real love — grounded, steady, awakening.
The kind that lights you up in places that had quietly gone dim.
The kind that feels like purpose.
The kind that feels like home.
Last night, surrounded by good food, intention, and someone who feels like a sister from another lifetime, I felt humbled when Caryn thanked me. I felt grounded. Connected. Seen. We built something together — not just a menu, not just a party, but a moment that reminded me how much I love this life I’m creating.
Feeling alive again isn’t luck.
It’s courage.
It’s intention.
It’s collaboration.
It’s choosing yourself.
It’s trusting that the universe meets you where you’re brave.
And after three full days of pouring our hearts into something beautiful, I felt that spark again — that joy, that deep knowing:
I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be.
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Carmalized Onion, Feta, and Tomato Pastry Cups
- Prep Time: 10 Minutes
- Cook Time: 10-12 Minutes
- Total Time: 20-22 Minutes
- Yield: Makes 24–30 mini cups 1x
- Diet: Vegan
Description
Perfect for holiday hors d’oeuvres, parties, or grazing boards!
Ingredients
- 1 box mini phyllo shells (usually 15 per box; buy 2 for 30 cups)
- 1 jar caramelized onions (drained if very liquidy)
- 1 cup cherry tomatoes, diced/sliced in half
- 1/2 cup vegan feta, crumbled (Violife or Follow Your Heart)
- 1 tablespoon olive oil
- Pinch of salt & pepper
- Fresh parsley, finely chopped (for mixing in + garnish)
Instructions
- Preheat your oven to 350°F.
- 2. Prep your filling.
- In a small bowl combine:
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Spoonfuls of jarred caramelized onions
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Diced tomatoes
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Crumbled vegan feta
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Olive oil
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Salt & pepper
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A tablespoon of chopped fresh parsley
- Gently fold everything together so the textures stay intact.
- Fill the phyllo cups.
- Arrange mini shells on a baking sheet.
Spoon 1–2 teaspoons of filling into each one, filling them to the top. - Bake.
- Bake for 10–12 minutes, just until the feta softens and the tomatoes release a little juice. The shells should turn lightly golden on the edge.
- Finish each cup with a pinch of freshly chopped parsley for color and brightness.
- Serve warm or at room temperature.
- Enjoy!
Notes
Chef Tips:
✨ Jarred caramelized onions work beautifully — they give sweetness and depth without the hour-long stovetop commitment.
✨ Parsley keeps the flavor fresh, balancing the richness of the onions and feta.
✨ Make-ahead friendly:
Assemble the filling earlier in the day, refrigerate, then fill and bake right before serving.
✨ Optional boost:
A micro-drizzle of balsamic glaze on top takes these from simple to elegant!




